How can Heaven be perfect if some of our loved ones are missing?

20 Jan 2013 Rev Dr Steven Kau-


I am convinced that we do not have much time before the end comes. I trust we have done everything possible to reach our loved ones with the Gospel of salvation. It is of great concern and pain to us that often our loved ones (father, mother, wife, husband, children etc) do not take what we say seriously. We already know without Jesus Christ as Savior, a day of frightening judgment awaits them.



One of the most difficult things to accept about the Bible’s view of heaven is that there may be loved ones who will not be there. What is “perfect” about being separated forever from loved ones? Considering that man has only two destinies – heaven or hell – the fact they are not in heaven can only mean eternal torment in hell. How could we possibly carry such a painful thought with us for all eternity?


The Bible explains that, in the end, God will remove all sorrow and pain from heaven’s existence. Revelation 21:4 says:

He will wipe out every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

We are not told how this will happen; we are only told it will happen.


One possible explanation may be found in the last phase of verse 4, “the old order of things has passed away.” This could indicate that any thoughts of sadness associated with loved ones not in heaven will be removed or changed. The next verse says, “And he who is seated on the throne said, ‘Behold I am making all things new.” (Rev. 21:5) God could remove the memories of our loved ones altogether, or He could change our thinking to conform it to His perfect perspective. While we are not given details, we know our existence will not be tainted by sadness.



All of the sadness and sorrow we experience on earth will be replaced with the eternal, perfect joy of dwelling in the presence of the Lord for eternity. Revelation 22:5 says:

They will need no light or lamp or sun, for the Lord God will be their light and they will reign forever and ever.

The human way of thinking we now experience will be replaced with a new existence that endures without sin and its curse.


The apostle Paul reminds us that, for now, we only see part of the picture:

For now we see in the mirror dimly but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” (1 Corinthians 13:12)

When we are with Christ that which seems impossible now will become perfectly reasonable in light of eternity. We praise Him who does all things well. (Mark 7:37).


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Rev. Dr. Steven Kau is the pastor of Faith Covenant Church. The church address is at 1-1 Jalan Putra Mahkota 7/5B, 47650 Putra Heights, Subang Jaya, Selangor. Sunday service in English starts at 10 am. His email contact –


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