26th Oct 2012. By Dr Lim Poh Ann –
Some of us pride ourselves that we are liberated and mature. We love to watch movies with special rating – “for mature audience”. After all, maturity implies we are free to watch or do what we like, including watching others having sex.
By the same token, in the name of freedom, some even blog about their sexual trysts. They provide the world a window into their bedroom. Their reasoning is this: “No one is harmed. We are just sharing. Is there anything wrong?”
In this respect I do see their point– their actions do not intrude into the privacy of others, unlike paparazzi who target celebrities for personal gain using zoom lenses. It is not that they are prying into the lives of others. It’s the reverse. They are letting others into their private world.
Well, it seems we are free to do what we like provided we’re willing to be subjected to the laws of the land.
Even the Bible tells youths that they are free to enjoy themselves. After all, they are only young for a transient phase of their lives. But there is a catch to it. Just read on.
“You young people should enjoy yourselves while you’re young. You should let your hearts make you happy when you’re young. Follow wherever your heart leads you and whatever your eyes see. But realise that God will make you give an account for all these things when he judges everyone” (Ecclesiastes 11:9).
The other aspect to consider is this: We think we are free to broadcast our sexual acts to the world but have we considered the effects our actions will have on others? How will those who view such acts be impacted, especially those who are young (Note 1) and uninitiated?
If we keep on arousing our sexual desires when the time isn’t right yet, it may create havoc in our lives. We might be consumed by lust (Note 2) almost every waking moment and lose our focus and direction in life.
We must never underestimate the power of the eye (Note 3) as it is a most important portal through which things, both good and bad, are being fed into our minds. If we continually feed our minds with smut, we will reap what we sow.
To be fixated on an act which lasts a few minutes and forget the rest of what makes a harmonious marital relationship would be a grave mistake.
Sex is wonderful if it is viewed as the icing on top of the cake. But we must not forget the rest of the cake – sharing of ideas, opinions, victories, burdens, leisure and fun times which are inherent in any happy and stable marital relationship.
Sex, as the Bible sees it, is one of the many ways whereby a couple – committed to one another in a heterosexual relationship within marriage – share intimate, private and pleasurable moments together.
In the name of freedom, one can extol the virtues of sex being a spectator sport. But sex, as God intended, is never meant to be broadcast to the world.
In a sense it’s a “sport”, being an aerobic activity which strengthens our heart – but it is meant to be private.
1 Youthful Passions
Why does the Bible single out the young – and especially young men – when it comes to keeping ourselves morally pure?
2 Run Before You Fall
There’s no point praying for strength if you are walking towards sexual temptation or indirectly acquiescing to it.
3 An Eye for Smut or Beauty
It all starts with the eye, the gateway which allows evil to creep surreptitiously into the mind.
Porridge For The Soul By Dr Lim Poh Ann
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