15 April 2013 by Adeline Lum CM –
This is the second part of a 3 SERIES talk by Pastor Edmund Smith on the 'freedom of Christ' among sexually broken people (SBP) in FGA Kota Damansara on April 6 at 5 P.M. Please click HERE for the first part of the article:
There is an underlying sexual design in a male and female, no matter what characters they display.
Although a man may be gay, their display of romantic interest tends to gravitate towards a sexual interest, while women who are lesbians tend to gravitate towards an emotional interest. In other words, one may act outwardly opposite to his or her gender, but their inner needs would still remain the same.
If one is confused with their gender make-up, here are five aspects of sexuality, which help you to ascertain your intended gender make-up:
1. Chromosomal Gender– XX (Female) or XY (Male)
2. Anatomy Gender– Male (Penis), Female (Vagina), or Intersex (Existence of both penis and vagina).
If a person were an intersex, the best way to determine the gender would be chromosomal gender. A surgery would usually follow to remove either sexual organ according to the chromosome. This case is very rare.
3. Sexual Orientation– Heterosexual, Bisexual, Homosexual or Asexual.
It is a lifestyle choice, romantic desire or taste?
4. Sexual Lifestyle– Heterosexual, Bisexual, Homosexual or Celibate.
Ask yourself: which gender are you opening your door to?
5. Gender Identity– Male or Female (Transgender).
Which gender do you perceive yourself to be?
Victorious against Gender Identity Disorder (GID)
God’s burden is light and His yoke is easy. Edmund depended on God to walk with him only one day at a time. In the past, Edmund lived his life according to what his partners or parents want, but now how he lives his life according to what God wants.
“I have a gender identity disorder (GID). My son here is a typical boy and my daughter is a typical girl. She’s a princess and likes everything pink. My boy here is a fighter and even purple which is (relatively) closer to pink is considered yucky. They have an orderly gender identity. You need to empathize people with gender identity disorder and not make fun of them. Instead, reach out to them,” said Edmund.
1 Cor 6:9-11
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
“I don’t want to be a homosexual anymore and I am a repentant person. When you’re in a journey with Christ, you get better each day. You bloom, bloom and bloom. I dress differently. I look at man differently. And I look at woman differently. I submit to God. Have you changed?” said Edmund.
Barrier Issues with Parents, the Seed of GID
God is always with us. The Holy Spirit walks and talks with us. We are not alone. Without the Holy Spirit, Edmund could not become the father and the son today.
“My mother was my greatest enemy. She became stricter than she was with my brothers when I entered kindergarten because I refused to go to school in pants. I only wanted to wear a dress. The child’s perception of his mother affects how he connects with women. I used to hate my mother but she did nothing. But the Holy Spirit convicted in my heart for my barrier issues,” said Edmund.
When Edmund has a barrier issues with his mother, he thought that a woman would betray and use him. His father also never hugged or showed affection to him except for his younger sister.
“My sister is like my dad’s diamond. I watched how my father loved her and I thought I have to be a woman to gain that kind of affection. Don’t do things you think you should not do. Some women go around sleeping because they had a vacuum in their hearts,” said Edmund.
“If you don't want to be parents, don’t be parents at all. Be the godly father and mother if you want to be parents,” he added. “I don’t know if anyone was as sinful as I am but I have the confidence that I am washed by the blood of Jesus! The abortion you have, God can wash your sins away. Come to God with a repentant heart.”
Journey to Recovery (JOR) Program for Homosexuals
There are three types of the journey of recovery for homosexuals including those who:
1. Rejects recovery- The Sexually Different
2. Chooses recovery- The Sexually Broken
3. Upon recovery- The Sexually Redeemed
“LGBT is sexually different. They don’t want to be called as sexually broken people. The seed of pride has to be broken down to be humble,” said Edmund who testified his coming to Christ in humility.
Yes. The struggle against homosexuality among our brothers and sisters-in-Christ is real and they need help. Pastor Edmund Smith and Amanda Smith are holding a three-years journey of a recovery (JOR) program, where they would only require a commitment of meeting once a month in a church setting. The couple looks forward to partner with churches that are interested.
“Churches are in denial that people need help. It is doable. Alan was an ex-gay for 30 years and he has a teenage daughter and son now. His wife is also here. When you say that you’re ex-gay, it doesn’t mean that you’re perfect. But there’s such a thing called the sexually redeemed. The church needs to make this available for people in need,” said Edmund.
A much-needed program in church, he would be traveling to Singapore the following weekend followed by a trip to Bandung to teach people on how to repent and turn away from their sins.
For more information on Real Love Ministries, please visit http://www.r-l-m.com/index.php. The remaining third part will be uploaded on another day.
Are you interested to have the 'Journey to Recovery Program' in your church, which takes a commitment of once-a-month visit by Pastor Edmund for three years? Please email Pastor Edmund Smith at firstname.lastname@example.org
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