“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath,” (Eph.4:26)
Matt. 5:5 God blesses those who are meek (gentle).The whole earth will belong to them.
Do you really believe that the whole earth will belong to those who are gentle? Why not!! Since Jesus said so in the Sermon on the Mount, therefore it must be true.
THE WORLD WE ARE LIVING IN TODAY IS A SELFISH AND CARELESS SOCIETY
We are living in an ego-driven and market-driven culture where good ethics and principles are far gone, so to speak. Why is this? The reason we don’t see a whole lot of gentle behavior today is because we don’t understand what it really means to be gentle. What it really means to be cultured.
In this MODERN materialistic society, we have been misunderstanding into believing that gentleness means weakness. That’s not true at all! From God’s point of view, gentle people are the strongest people on this earth. It’s the weak people who want to flex their muscles. It’s the weak people who are arrogant and boastful, it’s the weak people who are dominating, proud, pushy and rude and mean; it’s the weak people who gossip and criticize others.
Listen to this, because weak people find themselves empty. There is no solid foundation in them, therefore there is a desperate need for this emptiness to be filled with ego, self-centeredness and boasting. Psychologists say empty people are the weakest people.
Let’s see what Jesus says; it’s the strong people in life who will be gentle and the world will belong to them.
Matt. 5:5: Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.
GENTLENESS IS STRENGTH UNDER CONTROL
The Bible says real gentleness is not weakness, it is strength under control. A gentle person does not overreact. A gentle person is not driven by their own emotions or ego. A gentle person is not loud, dramatic and aggressive. A gentle person does not flare up over small issues. A gentle person does not overreact.
A tamed horse is no less strong than a wild horse. A tamed horse is broken of its wildness and the strength is brought under control for the master’s use. In other words, it becomes gentle and does not over-react wildly but becomes useful and submissive for the master.
When you become gentle as a man and woman of God, it doesn’t mean you are weak but it means you are crucified in your flesh. You are regenerated and transformed into a BORN-AGAIN Christian by the power of the Holy Spirit. All your rebellious wild nature has been tamed and transformed and brought into control for your master’s use.
Please understand that God cannot use you as long as you are not broken and crucified in this area of your character. When you truly understand the meaning of this quality of being gentle in your life, it’s going to bless you tremendously
In Matthew 11:29, Jesus said,
“Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”
When you bring your life and character in submission to the yoke of Jesus and allow Him to mould you and shape you and drive you, you become gentle like Him and your soul will find peace and joy and harmony.
GENTLENESS DIFFUSES CONFLICT
It de -escalates anger, it diffuses the time bomb in any relationships. Gentleness is an antidote to anger. The Bible says in Prov. 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
ANGER CAN BE MANAGED
Experts say anger is a healthy normal emotional condition of the human body. These emotions are part of us because they are part of God, and we are made in God’s image. But emotions can be overwhelmingly powerful and beyond control sometimes in some people.
However despite what the experts say, many lives have been destroyed because of explosive temper and aggressive anger!
Here is a key to avoid many heartaches. When other people raise their voice you lower your voice. Whether it’s in your marriage, whether it’s in dealing with your children, whether it’s in dealing with your relationships with others. When other people raise their voice you should learn to automatically lower yours and that is strength under control.
But what will happen: When other people raise their voice and you too raise your voice then things will escalate and go out of control. That is like a wild horse without control.
Gentleness means when they raise their emotions you lower yours. You are not going to mimic and mock them. This will save you a lot of trouble and heartache. This is where a lot of people are defeated. They cannot control their emotions. They blast out at each other and the hurts and consequences becomes beyond repair.
I suppose it’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when we are faced with certain situations, especially when unfairness and mistreatment is involved. I guess it’s not how we feel during in such times that creates the problem but rather, it’s how we handle the temper that makes a difference. Anger is something we can’t avoid, but it’s something we can learn to manage and control.
Uncontrolled anger on the other hand can become a demonic stronghold. It’s an issue of the flesh initially. It’s an issue of misguided heart outside the divine order. It starts in the realm of manipulation and control outside of God. It’s a grasping for power! What happens is that when it becomes strongholds the enemy moves in and supernaturally takes control and the result is you will lose your mind.
GENTLENESS DISARMS CRITICS
The more successful you get in your life the more critics you are going to have in your life. If you are going to get anywhere for God. if you want to be a leader, and the more successful and well-known you become the more you will be criticized.
But how do I handle the critics in my life? Sometimes unnecessary gossip, unfair and bad things are said about you and against you. Untruthful things are thrown at you.
HERE IS HOW YOU HANDLE IT:
WHEN YOU RESPOND WITH GENTLENESS, YOU WILL WIN THE BATTLE
Here is what you need to note; when you respond in gentleness you disarm your critics. It actually disappoints them. When somebody criticizes you they are waiting for you to fall into their trap and how you respond will make a great difference. They are expecting you to get mad at them. They want you to be defensive and they want you to be angry. They enjoy it!
THE MAD PEOPLE AROUND YOU
Let me explain to you the psychology behind it. How many of you know: there are a lot of sick people walking around. They may look normal in appearance, but they are mentally sick people. Some people are suffering from “anger addiction.” And being constantly angry is the only way for them to be kept alive. The only way they feel good and alive is to get mad at somebody. Anger energises and satisfies their addiction. These people are always looking for a fight.
Are you truly angry? Or is your anger masking other feelings such as embarrassment, fear, insecurity, hurt, shame, rejection or vulnerability?
Do you believe that your way is always right and get angry when others disagree?
Do you have a strong need to be in control or a fragile ego, that you often interpret other perspectives as a challenge to your authority, rather than simply a different way of looking at things?
You know what? We get angry when a current event brings up an old unresolved situation of the past that has long been buried in us.
Note: Rev Dr Jai Kumar is an ordained & licensed minister of Covenant Ministries International N.J. USA. He is a mission minded pastor who carries an apostolic anointing who preaches and teaches an uncompromising gospel with boldness. A member of ECCM (Malaysia) Spiritual Adviser & overseer to various ministries and churches. An itinerant speaker. He is also the author of a book entitled, ‘God’s Time Clock.’ Currently he worships at C3 Subang.
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