Resolving Family Conflict

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Every family has run into times when conflict between parent and child arises. It’s normal and expected. Here are four tips to help you resolve conflicts fairly:

 

  • A willingness to admit your own role in the conflict. Parents have been known to point fingers without acknowledging their own contribution of the dispute.
  • The desire to work things out. If you want to find a win-win situation, it’s likely that you eventually will. But if your only goal is to control your child, you’ll only find increased conflict.
  • A focus on the present and future. Avoid bringing up the past; stick with the topic at hand. Aim for a more peaceful future.
  • A commitment to listening. Commit yourself to listening even when it’s painful. Decide to distinguish between anger and disrespect in your child’s tone of voice; forbid the latter, but acknowledge the former.

 

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Once you have established those parameters, interaction between child and parent should be easier. The following steps are helpful in further clarifying and solving the situation:

 

  • Clearly define the issues. Without getting lost on tangents, identify the problem and work on that.
  • Let the other person speak without interrupting. If it will help you listen better, keep a piece of paper handy to jot points down so you won’t forget them.
  • Create solutions. Listing all the pros and cons of each potential solution during your brainstorming is often helpful and can clarify the options.
  • Agree on solutions. Sometimes this means not following through on the solution that either the child or the parent originally felt was correct. You can come up with a third course that combines both your preferences.
  • Write down the agreement and have all concerned parties sign it. This will help avoid confusion or misunderstanding later.

 

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